These free therapeutic tools and exercises are here for you to use whenever you need them. Some are for couples wanting to communicate better, some for individuals reflecting on their own lives, and some for parents and children finding words for big feelings. Nothing you enter is saved, and none of them need a sign-up.
For couples · For individuals · For parents and children
For couples
Table for Two
A card game for the two of you: five suits, a hundred cards, no winning and no losing. Pick a card, finish the sentence out loud, and pass the phone.
Window of Tolerance check-in.
Before you try to talk something through, it helps to know where you both are. A quick check-in for each of you, with practical guidance on what your combined states mean for connecting right now.
Clean Feedback
A guided way to tell your partner how something affected you, layer by layer, without mixing up what actually happened with what you made it mean.
Coming Home to Each Other
What do you each need at the end of the day? A short exercise for couples whose evenings keep missing each other.
How Close Do You Feel
When words aren’t coming, pick a picture for where the two of you are right now. Do it on your own, or each choose privately and compare, then talk it through.
Couples Connection
Five short exercises to bring you back towards each other. Good for busy weeks when a longer conversation isn’t realistic.
Together and Connected (allow 20 to 30 minutes)
A guided exercise for slowing down together and remembering what it feels like to be on the same side.
Pause and Listen (allow about 20 minutes)
For the moments after a row, when you’re both still raw. A structured way to settle, take turns, and feel heard, before anyone tries to fix anything.
Couples Dialogue Wheel (allow 30 to 40 minutes)
A structured conversation for the things you never quite find the right moment to say. One of you speaks through a series of sentence openers while the other listens, then you swap.
Already working with me as a couple?
Your PDF guides are gathered in one place: the handouts and reflections we use in our sessions. Open your guides with the password I’ve given you.
For individuals
Your Strengths
A calming exercise that helps you find the three strength words that feel most honestly yours, finishing with an image you can keep.
What Does Anxiety Feel Like?
A visual word cloud exploring what anxiety actually feels like in the body and mind, and when it tips into a panic attack.
Dream Exploration
Choose a thread from a recent dream and follow it through eight reflective questions, paying attention to the feelings it carries rather than hunting for meanings.
What I Haven’t Said
Twenty unfinished sentences for one person, used alone. A way to shift from rehearsing what your partner did to owning your own part in it.
A Question Deck for Men
Twenty questions about being a man, drawn one at a time. Use it alone, with a friend, or to get a men’s group talking. There are no right answers; the point is the conversation.
Sentence Stems for Men
Twenty sentence stems to help you finish thoughts you’ve never quite started. Works on your own or passed round a men’s group.
Reflect and Return
A structured guide to using AI for reflection between counselling sessions, with clear boundaries so it supports your therapy rather than replacing it.
Already working with me as an individual?
Your PDF guides are gathered in one place: the handouts and reflections we use in our sessions. Open your guides with the password I’ve given you.
For parents and children
The Animal Ladder
When children act out or go quiet, it’s often their way of showing they don’t feel safe. This guide uses animals to help parents and children name what’s happening in their bodies and find their way back to feeling settled.
A Feelings Card Deck for Children
A free card deck with sentence starters to help children talk about how they’re feeling, used together with a parent or trusted adult. Draw a card, finish the sentence, talk together. Good for everyday conversations as well as moments when a child seems unsettled but can’t quite say why.
The Shape of the Day
A tool for a parent and child to map a real day together, moment by moment, and see where the stress climbed and where it tipped over. Made for when school feels hard, at the gate or long before it.
Feeling Explorer
A three-step activity where children pick a picture that matches how they feel, show where it lives in their body, and draw it; best done side by side with a parent.
Other resources
Not everything here is an interactive tool. This section is for reading pieces that don’t belong to one audience.
Living with family estrangement, wherever you stand in it: whether you’re the one who stepped away, the one who’s been cut off, or the one caught in between. A relational read for individuals, couples and families.
These tools are designed to support reflection and connection; they’re not a substitute for counselling. If something comes up that you’d like to talk through, you’re welcome to get in touch or book a free introductory call. I’m an accredited registrant of the NCPS, working online and in Bude, Cornwall.